Saturday, October 06, 2007

Sorry----Sunday Scribblings

Sunday Scribbling is a great blogging community. It is more a family where we post each week to a prompt. When I checked in for this Sunday, there was this post saying...sorry…no scribble this week! Shocking to say the least! A Sunday without scribbling? How is that possible?

I again went there wanting to go around those people who had commented and found that sorry has been made into a prompt. That pleased me no end and from the comments there, most of the bloggers too!


Now what does one write about sorry? It is such an abused word. So much used that it has lost its meaning altogether. We say sorry for no apparent reason, meaninglessly. We do a wrong, we say sorry. Someone else that a wrong, we feel sorry. Sorry does have a whole gamut running through it. We do not give it much thought before saying it. Lip service, as it can be called.


We need to ponder over it. What does it mean? When we say it, do we mean it? Should we say it even when we know it is not our fault? Sometimes we say it for others. To cover for them. Do we need to do that?


Sorry should never be taken lightly, neither by the person who says it nor the person who receives it. It has to come from the heart. It has to touch the heart. Only then sorry can really mean something other than a mere empty word…


28 comments:

UL said...

I agree. In case of apologies actions speak louder than words. If you are 'sorry', prove it somehow would be my policy.

sage said...

this sounds like a good Sunday Scribbling topic--I'll have to see if I can get something up for it--I've said "I'm sorry" more than I'd like to remember

Herb Urban said...

I absolutely agree. Seems like, all too often, people use that word dispassionately, as a way of absolving themselves of any guilt for their actions, despite feeling no sense of remorse.

A sincere, heartfelt apology can heal most wounds. An insincere one only makes the hurt worse.

lisrobbe said...

I agree too. I hear sorry in such a sarcastic way from my three year old at times it solidifies to me that it is overused and comes with no meaning. To say you are sorry only in words and without action seems to hold no bearing anymore.

PI said...

Why do some people(often the male gender) find it demeaning to apologise?
As it says in the song 'Sorry seems to be the hardest word.'
Of course you have to be sincere and back it up with action but it HAS to be said otherwise people could use the excuse that it might be deemed insincere so as not to say it. Maybe they regard an apology as losing face. IMO they are necessary for peace of mind both for the one who has erred and the one who has suffered.
Michele sends her best.

puerileuwaite said...

Better to say sorry
I suppose
Then to say "bite me"

Though often it's hard
As I know
Nature does fight me

Jo said...

Oh yes, it has to be meant.....and sadly so often it isn't. You only need to listen to children for that LOL.

Rose Dewy Knickers said...

I'd rather have a hug than a bogus sorry any day.

Actions make up for hurts more than words ever can.

I did post a 'sorry' poem for this prompt. ;)

Rose

xo

Brian said...

Counting down the minutes left at work.

Thoughtful post. The corollary of course is that for every sorry, the receiving person must show the proper amount of acceptance.

One doesn't have any connection to the other. A real apology stands on it's own merits.

polona said...

there is a 'sorry' and there is a sorry.
but i can't say it any better than you

sister AE said...

Hi, Gautami,
For an "I'm sorry" to mean anything, the one apologizing must accept responsibility for his or her actions. I find that far too many people spend time denying responsibility instead. Hence, "I'm sorry, but..."

Good post.

floots said...

well said
thank you

Patois said...

I love your reasoning. It is why it takes many, many tries to get my children -- and me, too -- to actually feel the apology rather than just say it. It's such a meaningless word with no emotion behind it. You're right on.

iamnasra said...

A sound advice for me ..sure I need to put it in mind

david santos said...

Freedom for Birmânia!

Steve said...

Beautifully put!

texasblu said...

Great musings... I will have to ponder that. Thanks for visiting - I like your poetry too. I didn't realize there were poetry blogging communities going on!

tumblewords said...

Lots to think about here. Nice post!

Gilson said...

It's true what you wrote. And I often ponder about my own use of the word sorry, wishing to be more honest expressing how I feel.

Gill said...

I love what you have written here. I have had a hard time getting this very thing through to my daughters - it's so easy to say sorry, much harder to really mean it!

raymond pert said...

We come at it from different perspectives, but I think you and I are exploring similar insights in our posts on this prompt. It's a very loaded and sometimes confusing word.

Fledgling Poet said...

You are so right, guatami...sorry is becoming a lost art, or is not used authentically as much as it used to be. Your post really made me think -- thank you! :~)

Just Jen said...

It is lipservice at times. To truly repent is a lost art.

Marie said...

You are sooooo right! Sorry...is a word that is abused because said just like that, there is no meaning and no promise of that the hurt won't be repeated.

I was repulsed by the word sorry, so I wrote about no scribbling instead. I missed our post! See you next week though.

Pen and the Sword said...

I think it has become part of our every day language. When I say Sorry I try to mean it. Like I mentioned in my post, I have said sorry so many times last week. But I did mean it. However, there were times that I have said it to dully up something before I said it. You know, like saying, "I'm sorry... BUT... I don't like your girlfriend," as an example. No I am not sorry, but I still don't like the girlfriend. When I think about it, you are right. It is a highly abused word, which perhaps is why it has such divided meaning in the dictionary.

Thanks for stopping by to read my SS. This was my first one and I enjoyed it immensely. Your post was great. Have a great day :o)

Devil Mood said...

Agreed. Those people that say sorry when they say hello to you, sorry in the middle of the chat and sorry when they live make me want to smack them! lol

Joseph C. Harris said...

Great post. Thanks for visiting and commenting on my blog.

Crafty Green Poet said...

I agree, sorry is meaningless if the person who apologises doesn't change their ways.