Wednesday, June 04, 2008

Random Musings

Summer vacations are already half-way through. This year May passed very fast for me. After moving to this new place, I had a lot of work to do. Both for myself and my mother. Frankly, my mom does not like any one to do anything for her. She is very independent and hates it when we try to help her in any way.

I seldom talk about my mom. I tend to focus more on my dad and my brothers. One reason is, as I and my mom live with each other, we take each other for granted. Most assume that my mom is living with me. To set the record straight, I live with her. I can't insult her by saying otherwise. I don't deny that being with her gives me a secured feeling. Although, I don't say it to her. Living with her is not as peaceful as it sounds. She is fiesty and at times I feel I am having a roller coaster ride. One can't really predict what she is going to do next. I am the tame one!

Most of the times, we are arguing about everything and nothing. I suppose that is very normal for two very strong minded invividuals. I have been asked if it makes me uncomfortable not getting my own space. On the contrary. I know she is near me. I can take care of her when it needs be and most important she sees to it that I do not neglect myself. She is the one who pushes me to limits. To do my best. To go for what I believe in. In no way, she invades my space. We let each other do pretty much what we wish to do. However, we do discuss the pros and cons and then take our own decisions. I also know that if I decide to chuck it all and go off somewhere, she would be the first one cheering me.

I respect her for what she is. She taught me to be truthful, no matter what. She taught me be independent. She taught me to live my life the way I want it. I love her for what she is. It is because of her that I have a smile on my face each morning.

31 comments:

Redness said...

Marvellous, passionate and heart lifting story of two women, with different ideals, respecting and loving each other. Congratulations, Thank YOU for your honesty.

R.E. Taylor said...

I agree, thank you for your honesty. It was very refreshing. Bravo on the use of the challenge words.

texasblu said...

I'm very impressed! Most women couldn't live together and be that positive about it. Kudos to you and your mom, even if you have those fiesty moments! :)

anthonynorth said...

It's good when this can happen. I suspect it doesn't work out for most people.

TC said...

I think that for women, relationships with their mothers are never uncomplicated.

Mine in particular doesn't seem to understand the idea that my brother and I can love her and my Dad without actually liking them a lot. And that it's OK: they are our parents, and while liking them would be nice, it really is fine to just love them as well.

forgetfulone said...

I really enjoyed that post. I couldn't live with my mom all the time.

Deana said...

I'm not sure if I could live with my mom. I probably could. My dad on the other hand, NO way, we are both hot heads so it wouldn't work. That doesn't mean I don't love him though.

Great story.

pia said...

Again I loved the honesty and the true homage you paid your mother while talking about the difficulty.

It is so hard when our mothers, who were our chief supporters and cheerleaders and still are, become older and more feeble

I have been down that road and it was very draining

one more believer said...

g, loved the post... amazing how we all reacted to michelle's prompt this week... i was late too... what came peeking thru the lines and letters, the love you have for each other... it is a wonderful blessing that a person, especially yr mother, can you a smile each morning... life can be so difficult sometimes that we forget the love for each other gets us thru...amen...

Tammy said...

How wonderful that you have your mother's wisdom and love to draw upon when needed. Keep smiling Tami! hugs

Bill said...

Very thoughtful and illuminating, gautami.

Lucy said...

I really loved this Gautami! Your mom sounds like a strong,loving, positive role model. YOu are so lucky to have her by your side. I would love you to write more posts about her.
The mother/daugher relationship... OH my! It's so dimensional, so complex, so...
important! :))

Zouxzoux said...

What a refreshing and beautiful tribute to your mom. I believe she did a good job raising you!

WriterKat said...

I like how you used the words. You are a strong person to live with your mom. It sounds like you fit together. Me, I can't even live in the same town as my mom - heck, not even the same time zone!

myrtle beached whale said...

Very creative use of the prompts. Just when I thought you were all about poetry, you surprise with great prose.

gingatao said...

That is a wonderful portrait of the relationship between the two of you. Very balanced and detailed. Lovely writing.

Linda Jacobs said...

I hear ya! I live with my mom for about 6 weeks in the spring and another 6 weeks in the fall. I treasure this time we have together but, at the same time, she drives me a little nuts!

Angelica said...

That's a beautiful story. You two sound very lucky to have each other.

J. Andrew Lockhart said...

You're so lucky -- my mom has been gone for 19 years and I think of her every day.

Whitesnake said...

YOU??????
The tame one?
Ha Ha Ha!

Don't ya just love mum's

Michelle Johnson said...

I'm happy that you and your mother have found that common ground to tread while still being true to yourselves. It's very difficult for children to have a good relationship with their parents but, when it happens its very healthy. Nice post. Have a nice day.

Daily Panic said...

so honest. I have that relationship with my own daughter. When we get all tangled up, we decided to give eachother space. My whole family is full of passionate people, one thing that doesn't change is the love we have. Within love there is an amount of openness that can sometimes hurt, but we learn to deal with emotions and we practice a lot of how not to make someone else's emotions personal. Gotta love mom!

January said...

Very nice post. Mothers and daughters are cut from the same beautiful cloth.

mariacristina said...

A lovely portrait of two strong women. How refreshing to hear of a relationship that has evolved into mutual respect. Beautiful post, gautami, elegant writing.

Practically at Home said...

What a lovely tribute to your mom.

UPS AND DOWNS, AT Practically at Home

Linda - Nickers and Ink said...

"I am the tame on."

Gee, me too. I'm visiting my mom this weekend, and she is so bold and fun. If there's a lake, she will be the first one in the water. If there's another adventure, she'll pony up first. What fun!

Thanks for playing at SIMPLY SNICKERS this week.

Blessings,
Linda

LOOP DE LOOP, at Nickers and Ink

Rae Trigg said...

Beautiful post. it's wonderful that you can live with your mom -- I couldn't with mine. We're two very different people.

Bone said...

That is all very understandable. The security you feel. The disagreements you are bound to have from time to time.

I hope you might let her read this. It's beautiful.

Amarettogirl said...

Relationships with parents are so layered and complex... I'm glad you shared this piece of writing with us - so different than your poetry, but just as rich and meaningful!
her is my 3ww:
http://amarettogirl.squarespace.com/the-written-word/

polona said...

you sound like you are having a very healthy relationship and mutual respect for each other.
may it last many years to come!

Rethabile said...

That's what mothers do. They put a smile on your face.